You open your eyes. You’re already late.
You rush to the restroom, kitchen, dining room all at the same time (OK you try). Eventually somehow you hop into something that moves and pray to the traffic to be nice to you until you find yourself at your workplace, thrown raw into the chaos of another crazy day.
I’ve been there. I’d be glad to remember my spouse’s name on days like those, leave alone “spend quality time” with him.
“Time-strapped” is a way of life today. For most of us, there’s no way to avoid it, irrespective of our profession. And in the race for survival, connecting with one’s family or spouse is often not the first thing on one’s mind.
Is there any way out of this rut? Here are some tips for finding time for yourself and your spouse in the midst of the delirium.
Photo by hartboy- Prioritize: In the mad rat race to the elusive “top”, we often forget the real important thing – people. Make sure you’re not making this mistake. Make a list of your usual day-to-day activities. Commuting to work, work, household chores, cooking, watching TV, going to the gym … include every tiny thing. Now take a long, hard look at it. Is every single item on that list equally important? I don’t know about you, but for most, they aren’t. Is it possible to cut-down on watching TV to find a little more time for things which are a little more important? … After this exercise many “busy” people realize they’re not busy at all. :D
- “Us” time: When was the last time you talked about anything other than grocery lists, jobs, kids, the traffic and the latest Bollywood release? But Surprise! Surprise! These are not the best romance enabling topics of the world. “Us” time is meant to force you to turn the necessary off and the romantic on. It’s a tiny 10 minute block that you set aside everyday – only for each other, for romance, for talking about the little nothings of life, for connecting. No, that doesn’t include connecting with laptops, iPads, phones or other kids.
- Family dinner: Whatever you do, you can’t miss having dinner together. Every single evening. Rituals are powerful and a simple “family ritual” like this strengthens familial bonds – between couples as well as larger families with kids. Try keeping the TV switched off during at least one dinner per week. Being forced to talk to each other is a great way of bringing yourselves together.
- Dinner dates: Go on a dinner date on a Friday. Instead of meeting at home first, meet directly at the restaurant. The anticipation of waiting for him/her, the excitement of meeting them at an enjoyable environment outside the home bring back the freshness of your initial dating days (besides saving commuting time ;)).
- Lunch dates: In most cities of the world the business district is concentrated in a particular area of the city. If you’re lucky and your workplaces are nearby, how about meeting up for lunch? Besides scraping up more couple time out of your day, this provides you a much needed stress buster midway through your crazy workday.
- Stay in touch always: A simple “Have you had your lunch?” or “Just beat the deadline…done and dusted…” from time to time in the midst of your busy work schedule can give a sense of being by each other’s side all the time.
Photo by Thynk – Coaching en Alicante – Formación empresarAre there any homemade strategies you and your spouse use to get rid of the too-busy-to-live syndrome? Do share with others by leaving a comment.
nice tips- I like the last one the best. Keeping in touch all the time is so important, even if its a few words of SMSes, and lunch time phone calls too.
Thanks for commenting Chaitanya. :)
This is wonderful point “Dinner dates” well This is a romantic dinner date idea at its very best. It’s predictable but it can be become more memorable if a perfect restaurant can be taken for Dinner dates.t
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The importance of staying connected cannot be emphasized enough. I think physical intimacy also plays a vital part in keeping both partners engaged. In our crazy world which leaves people with ever-shrinking time and energy for it, it has become a chore slipping not to the bottom but completely off the daily to-do list of most.
You’re right Ajiteja. Making love and to-do lists? Hmm… we’re in a seriously messed up world.
food for thought….this is not the case for all….:)
I understand Basu… all of the options may not be easily applicable for everyone. But the vital ones – like “Us time” – should be easy for anyone to implement. Try it. ;)