How to Propose a Girl on Facebook: Top 10 Ways

After exploring general Facebook dating tips in our last posts How to Propose a Girl on Facebook-Part 1 and How to Propose a Girl on Facebook-Part 2, I started getting a few polite (OK, sometimes) hints from some of you reminding me that it was time to look at some actual methods of proposing a girl on Facebook.

So here are your long-awaited hacks to blow her off her feet as you declare your love on The Social Network.

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#1. Propose a Girl on Facebook with a funny anagram

Post an anagram of “I love you Tina” (let’s say her name is Tina) or any message you want to give her, on her wall, in the form of an intricate picture. Here’s a cool little app that rearranges any text string into various funny anagrams. And then, with nothing more than the copy of Microsoft Powerpoint already sitting there in your computer, turn it into the whackiest word-image ever. Save the slide as picture and post it to Facebook. Done! If she seems to have missed the trick, you can challenge her over chat to solve the puzzle hidden in your post. ;)

#2. Propose a Girl on Facebook with a “time-bomb”

Post a picture on her wall which says, “The 10th day from today will be the most important day of your life.” The next day post another that says, “9 more days to go…”, “8 more days to go…” and so on until the last day. On the 10th day inbox her your most romantic e-card. She’d remember the moment for the next hundred years.

#3. Propose a girl on Facebook with a status message

If you’re feeling frustrated with the banality of that one, bear with me for a few more seconds till you find the important bit.

The most obvious way to propose a girl on Facebook is by posting your romantic message to her in the form of a status message on your profile.

But relax. I’m not talking about giving the entire world something to talk about. Not yet. ;)

Have you heard of something called post-level privacy settings? Click on the audience selector of your new status message, choose “custom” and then make it invisible to everyone but her.

She’d get a huge shock to see your declaration of love out there for the world to see, but trust me – she will feel a tiny bit proud of you for being so honest about your feelings (don’t forget to go crazy ;)).

To be on the safe side send her a private message a few days later (in case she hasn’t responded already) and explain it.

#4. Propose a girl on Facebook by going lyrical

Poems are poems because they express the feelings deep inside our hearts better than we can – in a way that arouses our emotions. Post your favourite romantic lyrics or poem as your status message and tag her. The poet’s words might just catch her fancy if yours’ falls short. ;)

#5. Propose a girl on Facebook by posting a video

Video-record yourself proposing her in your most romantic language. Post it on YouTube. Give it some funny name like “Dying for love” or “Until death do us apart”. Post it on your profile (again, be careful with your privacy settings) with a commentary that goes something like, “Heart-rending…brought a tear to my eyes… a must watch”. Tag her if you think there’s a chance she might miss it.

You can imagine her reaction when she opens it! Remember – you have to be as creative in this video as you can be. ;)

#6. Propose a girl on Facebook with a song

For those of you who’re not in a position to arrange for shooting a video self-portrait – all is not lost. ;) Download a video of her favourite love song somewhere off the internet. In text form, add the words bubbling inside your heart, and post this video online. You know the rest. If even that is too much work, you can simply post her favourite romantic track on your profile tagging her, with your message.

#7. Propose a girl on Facebook by flooding her wall

Get a few of your common friends (I hope you have a few at least) in confidence. Tell them to post messages on her wall like “Congrats”, “You didn’t tell us the good news ;)” etc. When she asks them what it’s all about, they should direct her to you, saying something like, “Oh you don’t know? Ask <your name>.”

#8. Propose a girl on Facebook through missing letter puzzles

Post a missing letter puzzle every morning. Each puzzle will have a certain letter of the alphabet as its solution. When added up over a few days, the letters should make the sentence “I love you Tina”. Here are some puzzles for you to get started: Missing letter puzzles. Don’t be shy of dropping her a few hints every now and then in cases she misses it.

#9. Propose a Girl on Facebook with a custom love poem

I discovered a great website for creating custom love poems. You can customize it with her name and favourite gifts and then download it in the shape of a heart like I did. All of this for free! Post this on your wall tagging her, hidden from the prying eyes of other friends. ;)

How to propose a girl on Facebook

#10. Propose a girl on Facebook with the key to your heart

Post the picture of a key on her wall. For a change, you don’t have to worry about privacy settings this time, as there’s nothing unusual about it. :D Subsequently inbox her asking, “Did you receive a key?” When she confirms, tell her, “It’s the key to my heart. I give it to you.”

Are you a Facebook flirter? What are some genius (or not-so-much) strategies you’ve used to propose a girl on Facebook? What worked? What didn’t work? Share with the rest of us through the comments.

 

How to Propose a Girl on Facebook – Part 2

How’re you doing today penguins?
After a round of general Facebook dating etiquette in our last post today is … another round of the same, in part 2 of our How to Propose a Girl on Facebook series. :D

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#6. Stop over-posting

Three status messages a day is not cool. You don’t want to tell her that you’re a bored jobless soul spending your life on Facebook (and if you ask me, this goes for everyone – trying to impress a girl or not). 3-4 posts a week is what is optimal, if you ask me. If your posting urges get the better of you, 1 per day should be your upper cut-off.

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#7. Don’t over-interact

Those of you who’ve been following this blog for some time would be familiar with this re and re-re emphasized relationship rule of mine:

Women want men, not boys.

Slavish over-eager behaviour will never get you the girl of your dreams. Liking and commenting on every single status update/photo of hers screams, “I’m desperate!” Not the message she expects from the confident, self-sufficient and mature guy she’s looking for. Engage in public interactions only when you genuinely have a thought to convey.

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Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#8. Disagree … in style

This is an extension of my earlier point. There’s no need to agree with each status message of hers (assuming she occasionally makes posts that one can agree or disagree to, in addition to the regular “had a great weekend with friends” ones :D). That speaks of the kind of slavishness she detests. Every now and then (again, not every time) politely show her the “other point of view” if you can. Personality, independent thinking and confidence in one’s own judgements is a combination more women than you think would die for.

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#9. Don’t over-socialize … with her girlfriends

Don’t send friend requests to other girls on her profile. Take it from me – she will visit your profile and check out common friends.

Every day.

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If she finds her girlfriends gradually adding to that population, she’d mark you as just another guy out for some casual thrill of online dating.

And stop replying to your messages.

OK, she might. :D

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#10. Don’t propose her publicly!

Breach of privacy is the first thing that causes strife between people on Facebook. Do not post anything publicly on her profile that conveys your more-than-friendship feelings to her friends before they’re conveyed to her. Follow the general thumb-rule of playing safe so far as your public interactions with her are concerned.   

The bad news is, that’s the end of the Facebook dating etiquette sessions. The good news is, we’d now go on to talk about some really creative ways of proposing a girl on Facebook.

In the next post. :D

Stay tuned!

How to Propose a Girl on Facebook – Part 1

So you’re dating online? And you’ve been so successful that you now want to propose a girl on Facebook? Great. I know you’d been waiting for some Golden Rules of Proposing a Girl on Facebook for quite some time (if the search phrases which bring you to this website are anything to go by ;)). And your day has finally come.

Today’s post is the first part of a two-part series on how to propose a girl on Facebook. But before going into the exact methods of proposing a girl on Facebook, I’ve decided to lay down some basic rules of Facebook dating. I cannot emphasize the importance of these rules enough when it comes to striking the right chord with a girl you’ve met on The Social Network.

I know, ’cause I got hitched through Facebook.  

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Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#1. Watch her profile

We keep a tab on our friends’ updates but we typically don’t check their “About” and “Liked pages” much. Go through every detail in her profile carefully. This would help her know her as a person – her tastes, preferences, beliefs and worldview. The rule of thumb is that you should know every piece of info about her that is available in public domain (The “public domain” bit is important. Stalking is not recommended. ;)) Use this info in online conversations with her. When your knowledge of her as a person shows through, she’d know you’re really – like really – interested in her. Talk about doing a thorough research on a potential employer before interviewing with them? ;)

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#2. Watch your albums

Go through you albums. If there’s any photo which you wouldn’t want her to see (e.g. those of your ex-girlfriend, or documentation of the effects of excessive amounts of alcohol on you. ;)), hide it. Disable your friends tagging you in photos if need be. Remember – this is not about painting a false picture of yours, but about making the efforts to impress her that she expects you to make. I for one would be disappointed if a guy expressing serious romantic interest in me lets his ex-girlfriend’s pictures hang out there. Does that mean I expect him to have had zero relationships in the past? No. It means I expect him to put in efforts to impress me, and he’s falling short.

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Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#3. Don’t brag

One of the top dating mistakes men make is trying to impress her too directly – in other words, through sheer bragging. Facebook has come to provide the official bragging forum to many, but when it comes to impressing a girl “First promotion within the first two years – check!” is not the best status message to post. If you’re itching to post some recent development in your life that you’re proud of, don’t. Tell her personally instead. Being the first person to know about it will make her feel special.

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#4. Be who you are

An oft-repeated but crucial rule of dating – online or otherwise – is being genuine. Your Facebook profile – all public info, status updates, photos – should paint the true picture of you as a person. Now does that mean you make all your personal info public? No. If you’re uncomfortable sharing any info, remain silent, but don’t try to paint a false picture. A guy I’d met had a Facebook date of birth three years later than his real one. No prizes for guessing we didn’t proceed much. Painting a false picture gets you only till the first few face-to-face meetings, no further. ;)

Propose a girl on Facebook Rule#5. Stop random tagging

Don’t tag her on your aesthetically profound works of photography, performed with domesticated and wild forms of photography around you (i.e. photos of your cute dog and the creeper around your window grills). No one likes to get 47 notifications a day. The only thing over-tagging can earn you is irritation from her.  

Have you ever dated anyone through Facebook? How did it go? Share your experiences through comments as you wait for How to Propose a Girl on Facebook – Part 2

How to propose a girl who’s your classmate: Top 5 ways

In some earlier posts I had some great fun discussing many quirky aspects of how to propose a girl – here, here & here. Many of you have been requesting more articles on similar topics, so I thought we’ll look more closely at how to propose your classmate, since after all, this is the most common scenario for Indians trying to propose a girl. Let’s get started with the top 5 ways ranging from sweet to whacky…

#1. The good old letter between the pages

This is the classic vintage way of proposing a girl who’s your classmate in school/college/university (and super romantic too). Get hold of one of her books/copies and insert your heart in! ;) Did I say heart? I meant heart melted into a few (or five thousand if you can’t control it :P) words on a sheet of scented paper. A quaint little love letter often finds it easier to charm its way into a girl’s heart. You can find tips on how to write a love letter here.

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#2. The good old go-to friend

If you’re one of the shy types, get a friend who’s a good-storyteller to do it for you. It’s best if you can convince a friend of hers to do it, ‘cause he/she would already have her trust and hence you’ll have more chances of success. ;)

#3. For those of you who think they’re Shah Rukh Khan…

…In the 90’s – you can declare it to the whole world, the earth, the Nature, God (…also your professors ;) ) by doing it on the stage. Wait for a college/university event, manage to bag some coordinating responsibility, and when you catch hold of the mic – tell her that you love her. A word of caution: How ever daring or confident you might feel, don’t propose on the stage in a gathering of more than 50-60 people (you’ll regret it).

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#4. Get her hooked with some mystery

Put a very serious looking notice on the noticeboard saying something like, “the following five students have been called at such an such hour to such an such office.” Include her name, of course. Inform the other four students of your plan beforehand. Her heart will be racing with apprehensions about getting some sort of bad news from the school/college authorities … and you’ll be present at the designated place & time to give her the best news of her life (according to you ;)).

#5. Public yet private proposal

Reach your next classroom before anyone else. Write one of those cheeky “John + Jane = bliss” messages on the blackboard, big enough for everyone to see. Don’t be afraid to get creative/humorous (but avoid being suggestive or risqué, it’s a classroom!). When everyone sees it and starts laughing vehemently claim it was done by someone else to tease you. Later message her saying you did it yourself. This is great way to propose a girl if you want to start it off with good humour!

#6. Is there a #6?

Have you ever had a crush on a classmate?
Did you propose a girl who’s your classmate?
Are you currently in a relationship with/married to your erstwhile classmate?
I’m eager to know your story of how you proposed to a girl who’s your classmate. Please share it by leaving a comment.